I was recently a guest on a podcast, and I had an amazing time. It’s called Lose the Cape Podcast for Working Moms…because, when you think of working moms, you look no further than Mike at Papa Does Preach, lol. I have been talking about starting my own podcast, and who knows, maybe I can move into the working moms niche when I get up and running.
In all seriousness, the podcast is run by Alexa Haddock Bigwarfe and her co-host Aubrey Mathis. Alexa was awesome enough to invite me on as there first ever dad guest, to talk about topics ranging from the women’s march, the day without women movement, and women’s history month, because again, when you think women’s movement, you think of this guy right here.
Ok, NOW I’ll be serious. Alexa and I were part of several movement related groups on Facebook during the election cycle; much like I mentioned in my post about Christie Organ. During our time in those groups I got to know Alexa, and found out, like me, she is a Army vet. We instantly bonded over out shared veteran status, as well our concern for treatment of women in the military, and in society as a whole.
I also came to learn that Alexa is either a product of the undead and founding member of the Santa Clarita Diet, or some kind of super hero, because this women seems like she’s always on the go, and never needs sleep. In reality, I’m sure Alexa would just laugh and say, “Shit has to get done.” We veterans can understand that. What’s most amazing about her constantly being on the go, is that most of the time she’s spending her energy on helping others.
Alexa not only runs the aforementioned podcast, she runs her own blog site katbiggie.com, contributed to the anthology Mother of All Meltdowns (2013), published books Lose the Cape Vol 1 and Vol 2, and published a book called Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother (she runs an online community of the same name).
See what I mean? The lady is constantly moving, but it’s because she wants to help so many people. Alexa does most of her help with mothers who have experienced the loss of a child. She herself lost one of her twin girls to TTTS (Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome), two days after being born.
Alexa spends much of her time cultivating a community for mothers who need a place to grieve, and feel the support from others who have, or are still, navigating the world of loss. Alexa connects with her community on a personal, many times one on one to be the shoulder to lean on, or the ear to bend. She sends gift baskets to people, and checks in those who need, and somehow still finds time to reach out to friends who express their own stress on social media…much like she did for me earlier this year when I complained about feeling burnt out from all the fighting and resisting post-election. I feel really selfish now having no idea the kind of stress Alexa’s days usually entails, yet here I was complaining.
It’s clear through all her actions that Alexa, while being a self-proclaimed type A personality, does her daily grind in the attempt to help everyone else. Her endless dedication to so many others is not only admirable, but inspiring too. I admire Alexa’s drive and determination to create, cultivate, and maintain a community of love and support, all while continuing to be a soldier, accept this time her battle, like so many other women, is to affect change on how women are treated in the larger war for equality.
This is why I admire Alexa Haddock Bigwarfe
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