This is Why We Can’t Have Nice Things Ep 2: Sexual Assault and The Story I Never Wanted to Tell

The incidents surrounding Harvey Weinstein are sad and disgusting. My heart breaks for the women who are speaking out, and even more for the many I know are still not. Sexual assault and intimidation, sadly, are nothing new to women; within Hollywood and all the way to the suburbs.

But what has come out, as almost a sub topic, is the fact that this is happening to men as well. While speaking about the women coming forward about Weinstein, actor Terry Crews (Brooklyn 99) and James Van Der Beek (Dawson’s Creek and Varsity Blues) both came forward and revealed while the abusive treatment of women is disgusting and rampant, the abuse was not only directed towards female actors. Both actors revealed they too had been groped by older men with influence and power in the entertainment field. Continue reading

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This is Why We Can’t Have Nice Things: Sexism and the Yeah But

I’m sure you’ve all seen the story from last week about Carolina Panthers QB Cam Newton. You know, the one where a reporter asked him a question about one of his receivers becoming more and more comfortable with his route running…the one where Cam then proceeded to snicker and make mock that reporter?

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Sexual Assault: A Hidden Double Standard

I want to paint a picture for you, if you would allow me. First, while I am not a huge fan of the overused term Trigger Warning, some may find topics discussed here triggering because of events that have happened to them.

So, the picture: Imagine if you will a person, for the sake of popularity; mainly in the form of “likes” or “shares” or “views” given out during this age of social media, going around and filming themselves touching people of the opposite sex, and filming their reactions to post on the internet. “But Mike, what do you mean by touching?” Well, I’m glad you (I) asked.
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Women I Admire Day 16: Christie Organ, Humanitarian #WomensHistoryMonth

The world is in a very weird place right now. Moreover, America is in an extremely weird place; some would even say volatile and unstable. No matter where you stand on the current political climate, or administration, one thing is for sure; people are angry.

While I don’t typically discuss politics on my page, or in my writing, I think I made it perfectly clear who I didn’t want to be President. I wrote one piece for another site speaking out as a disabled veteran on how the Republican candidate was not showing even the bare minimum of respect to vets, but that’s where I left it. Obviously, the candidate I chose did not win, and that’s just the way shit goes some times. But I, like many others, were left with all this energy from pre-election. Energy that was now turning to anger or sorrow. Energy that we weren’t equipped how to use going forward. That’s why when I meet someone who is now spending that energy in positive ways, I can’t help but be inspired.
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Women I Admire Day 3: My Friend Audrey Hayworth #WomensHistoryMonth

I have come to realize that I don’t always do a good job telling people what they mean to me, or how I see them. In my head I convince myself that they clearly know, because we’re connected. But, of course in this day and age of social media, connection doesn’t mean that same as it did even 10 years ago. This is something I plan to work on.

But this isn’t about me…this about someone hearing what they mean to me, and it’s long overdue.
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With Liberty and Justice…FOR ALL

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Below is a post I wrote almost 6 years ago for a different blog, so excuse the dated references and crappy grammar. I wrote this upon the announcement of the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell. This is my favorite story to tell when people ask what it was like being in the military. I always think about the friends I made, and the close relationship I built during those years…with all of my battle buddies, Black, White, Latino, straight, and gay. I wanted all my friends to know how important they are to me, but this story was meant for one man in particular who was a very dear friend while I served, and still is to this very day. Nothing will ever change the fact that these men and women were, are, and always will be my family. So, on this Veterans Day, I share this story with you.
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Dear Men, We Need to Stop Saying, “Not All Men”

By now, I’m certain you’ve heard the recent offensive and demeaning comments made by Donald Trump. Oh, I’m sorry, I know that was vague, what, with that kind of thing being a daily occurrence now.

Of course, I’m referencing the comments made on audio from an appearance on Access Hollywood in 2005, where Mr. Trump bragged about trying to sleep with a married woman, and went on to admit being a celebrity allows certain privileges; one being sexual assault against women.
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