The incidents surrounding Harvey Weinstein are sad and disgusting. My heart breaks for the women who are speaking out, and even more for the many I know are still not. Sexual assault and intimidation, sadly, are nothing new to women; within Hollywood and all the way to the suburbs.
But what has come out, as almost a sub topic, is the fact that this is happening to men as well. While speaking about the women coming forward about Weinstein, actor Terry Crews (Brooklyn 99) and James Van Der Beek (Dawson’s Creek and Varsity Blues) both came forward and revealed while the abusive treatment of women is disgusting and rampant, the abuse was not only directed towards female actors. Both actors revealed they too had been groped by older men with influence and power in the entertainment field.
While abuse of men is not new either, what we’ve mainly seen in these cases of abuse, is that they have typically happened at a young age, when predators can use fear and intimidation on young boys, or, as many female victims face, fear of being physically overpowered. Rarely, if ever, have we seen or heard of grown men being abused by other grown men.
While Crews and Van Der Beek, did not face the fear of being physically overpowered, they were subjected to a very real fear – the fear of loss, the fear of being powerless, and the fear of having their life altered by someone who held a great deal of power and influence.
This got me thinking – “What about regular guys? Guys who aren’t famous, or have a large social platform. Are there guys out there who have been put in situations where they felt helpless, or abused by someone who held power over them, or sway over their career?” Did I know anyone who fit this description? And then, a jolt ran through me. I did in fact know someone….and I didn’t have to look any further than looking right in the mirror.
Here’s my story.